These are things that Ive written in Diaries, random thoughts I might do something with one day... Enjoy.
- If you think she's beautiful, tell her.
- Make dinner together. Eat dinner together. Go to bed together.
- Your fantasy life should revolve around your wife, not your football team.
- Life is short. Say "I love you" at least once every day.
- The more time you spend trying to change your spouse, the less time you have for improving yourself.
- One of the sexiest things you can do in bed is to serve your spouse a nice breakfast.
- Talk to each other, not at each other. And really listen.
- It doesn't matter what you think you're fighting about. It always comes down to a choice between fear and love. Choose wisely.
- Write this into your wedding vows: "I promise to faithfully replace the toilet paper whenever I use the last of it."
- Do things together. Do things apart.
- Career, personal goals and family are important, but nothing is more important than your relationship.
- The cruelest question you can ask a husband: "Notice anything different?"
- Be your spouse's biggest cheerleader.
- If you've truly forgiven your spouse for something, you'll never bring it up again.
- Your wife doesn't need to know that you think that chick across the street has a great figure. (Not that there's anything wrong with noticing.)
- Be spontaneously ridiculous and unabashedly silly. Make your spouse laugh. It nourishes your souls.
- No one person can give you everything you need.
- If he forgets your anniversary, don't freak out about it. If he forgets your name, do.
- "What can I do for you, honey?"
- He's not a mind reader. If you want him to know what you're thinking or feeling, you have to tell him.
- If you make your kids the centre of your universe, there's going to be one massive black hole when they finally grow up and leave.
- Recognise your spouse's weaknesses, but focus on the strengths.
- If you always have to win the argument, you'll eventually lose the relationship.
- Only if she asks: "No, honey, that dress isn't very flattering." (Not: "It makes you look fat.")
- Find someone to talk to about your marriage, but never talk your spouse down to anyone.
- When you finally realise your spouse is as flawed and messed up as you are, you can leave the rose-coloured fantasy behind and start building a real adult relationship.
- If your wife suddenly starts tanning and exercising a lot, might as well call the lawyer now. (This one came from a recently divorced friend.)
- Every little disagreement doesn't have to snowball into a discussion about "the relationship".
- It's actually OK to go to bed angry sometimes, as long as you agree to discuss it in the morning.
- She's your wife, not your mummy. Clean up after yourself.
- It's not your job to make your spouse happy. (It's not possible, either.)
- Appreciate the love your spouse has for you. It's not something you're entitled to. It's something you earn.
- When he says, "You might have a point there, honey", what he's leaving out is "if you weren't so full of crap".
- Create your own traditions for the holidays.
- Sharing your secrets (and hopes and fears) is the secret to true intimacy.
- Want to get lucky tonight? Do a load of laundry, start to finish.
- Listen to other people's advice, but make your own choices.
- Argue naked. It's guaranteed to keep a minor disagreement from turning into a big fight.
- Random expressions of love and affection are the best ones. (Foot rubs count double. Feet are gross!)
- Being selfish and being in love are incompatible.
- Just because you know where someone's buttons are doesn't mean you have to push them.
- If your dog gets more snuggle time in bed with your wife than you do, you're in trouble.
- Money is something to talk about, not fight about.
- When all is said and done, you can hang onto your pride or you can hang onto your relationship.
- And, finally, here's a great one from Ogden Nash. "To keep your marriage brimming / with love in the wedding cup / whenever you're wrong, admit it / whenever you're right, shut up."
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